This part of my page is dedicated to love. I figure the Titanic is the
only way to describe it. The story of my little love boat begins way back
when I was just a wee little lass. I used to hate how those nasty
boys would chase me home after school, trying to kiss me........it was
appalling for me back then. Now I couldn't pay a guy to chase me
home after school. What happens between then and now? I often
ask myself this question, and here are some of the conclusions I've come
to. If you have any more suggestions or reasons for guys being dumb,
please let me know :-)
I've noticed many of my male friends saying that they look for brains in a girl, and that the physical aspect doesn't mean much. I also notice them laughing at those who they feel don't have wonderful physical aspects. Now, this is not only a "man" problem, for women are critical of men. But, through the years, I've noticed men are usual more critical of women. I am living proof that guys don't fall for brains and wit, though I am also proof of a woman who has higher standards as to what she wants in a guy. It's an awful combination, and ceases to leave me feeling very single most of the time. Why do the opposite sexes treat each other this way?
Commercials are a huge reason for this judgment call on what could be considered "average" people. Calvin Klein ads with half naked, skin and bones models doesn't help anyone. The Coke commercials showing the beautiful woman and the rugged yet drop dead gorgeous guy.... do these people really exist? There is the way we state that if they have beauty they are brain dead, but if they are the ugly duckling they have an amazing personality. We say this, but it isn't always true.
There are a few occasions when I felt what I thought was true love for people...well, in my case, guys. On two occasions, it was with guys I could talk to, completely poor my guts out to. They were, and still are, there for me whenever I felt I couldn't go on. Now, one would say "why are you not involved with these guys?". They are some of my best friends is the only reason I have, and to jeopardize my friendships would be an end to me. They are my support system for when my family just can't be there. My friends are my life. Everyone says their lover is their best friend.......if I were to say that I'd not only be a lesbian but I'd have quite a few lovers :-)
Back to the real issue here.......love. I think the expectation for teenagers to find love is beyond the point of highly over rated. It's an added stress that people just don't need. Who honestly feels it is normal to find true love and be married by the age of 25? Not very many these days. In a time of career oriented lifestyles, love has turned into flings, one night stands, and in a good friend's words, just "smashing". Am I old fashioned for wanting a monogamous, long term relationship with someone who I can laugh with, cry with, curl up with, or have a decent conversation with. Yes, I admit, a physical attraction is needed, but otherwise, am I asking for too much?
Well, if you have anything you'd like added here, please drop me a line. I'm curious as to people's reactions to reading this........
If you have comments or suggestions, email me at msknight@idirect.ca
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