• Take your share of the responsibility so One doesn't end up with all the work
• Acknowledge their achievements
• Reassure them that they are fine the way they are
• Be fair and considerate like they are
• Apologize if you have been unthoughtful
• encourage them to lighten up and to laugh at themselves

What's good about being a One

• self-discipline enables them to accomplish a great deal
• they work hard to make the world a better place
• they have high standards and ethics and don't compromise
• they are reasonable, responsible and dedicated
• they can put facts together, come to good understandings with wise decisions
• they can be the best they can b and bring out the best in others

What's difficult about being a ONE

• they can be disappointed in themselves or others when expectations are not met
• they can feel burdened by too much responsibility
• they may feel unappreciated
• they can get upset because others are not trying as hard as they are
• they can obsess about what they did or should do
• they can take things too seriously and become tense and anxious

Ones as Children

• criticize themselves in anticipation of criticism from others
• refrain from doing things they think might not come out perfect
• focus on living up to the expectations of their parents and teachers
• are very responsible and may assume the role of parent
• hold back negative emotions (good children aren't angry)

Ones as Parents

• teach their children responsibility and strong moral values
• are consistent and fair
• discipline firmly

  Source: Adapted from Riso, Don Richard with Russ Hudson, Personality Types:Using the Enneagram for Self Discovery,1996. Houghton Mifflin and Baron, Renee and Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy, 1994, Harper Collins