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Core Belief Engineering
Articles
By Lisa Sidorowicz, B.A., M.A.,
B.Ed., Certified Practitioner and Instructor
Age Regression
Age regression -- the experience of instantly reverting to a childhood
emotional state -- can be triggered by a look or comment, a memory, a visual
cue, a feeling, a sound, or even a smell. Instantaneously, one finds oneself
five or seven or ten years old again: childhood feelings, thoughts, and
perspectives overtake the mind. Helplessness may explode in a rush of rage;
abandonment may pool into a flood of paralysing grief. In these highly
charged moments, the ability to discern, think clearly, analyse, and respond
to present circumstances is blinded by raw emotion. One may feel powerless,
attacked, unloved, neglected, or ashamed, etc. When age regression occurs,
one's feelings and reactions are uncontrollable, exaggerated, and often
inappropriate to the present situation. One falls back into the behaviours,
mind-sets, coping strategies, and defense mechanisms formed at a very young
age, such as becoming defensive, withdrawing, retreating, hiding, shutting
down, controlling, or numbing out. These reactions feel perfectly normal
and justifiable to the person in the midst of this emotional state, but
may leave him or her confused and frustrated once the adult state of consciousness
has returned.
When an individual regresses to a younger version of himself, he is tapping
very deep unresolved wells of childhood emotion. Growing up, a child's
internal emotional environment is sculpted by the reactions, beliefs, emotions,
and messages of parents, siblings, teachers, close family members, classmates,
and friends. If, for example, a child grows up being shamed, criticised,
teased, or invalidated, he may unquestioningly accept these judgements
as truth and conclude at a deep level that he is unlovable and not good
enough, that he doesn't belong. As a result, other people's beliefs about
him (projections of their own low self-worth) become his uncontested beliefs
about himself. These negative views and painful raw emotions eventually
comprise part of the child's subconscious landscape, remaining alive deep
within the mind. It is these holding tanks of unresolved low self-esteem
and pain that get re-experienced later in life when, as an adult, some
trigger reactivates the deeply stored pain.
In addition to the intense, unresolved emotions that are re-experienced
during age regression, one also taps into subconscious parts of the mind
that were created to cope with the original childhood distress. According
to Core Belief Engineering (CBE), a results-based alternative form of psychotherapy,
the mind is comprised of a multitude of such subconscious parts, each formed
during childhood to help, protect, and serve us. Each part has its own
belief systems, emotional and behavioural patterns, and coping strategies.
For instance, a person who grew up in a highly critical environment may
have a part dedicated to dissociating her feelings from her body whenever
emotional pain becomes too intense. Another part may have the job of being
a chameleon to fulfil other people's expectations to attain love and acceptance.
Or, she may have developed a part that uses harsh self-denegration in an
attempt to soften the blow of any further external criticism. Regardless
of the success or failure of these coping strategies, they have become
parts of her subconscious makeup. If this person grew into adulthood without
resolving these subconscious feelings and protective reactions, any external
criticism may trigger the release of her unresolved childhood feelings.
Core Belief Engineering has excellent success resolving age regression.
Through a gentle yet powerful psychotherapeutic process, a CBE practitioner
can guide a person to consciously reconnect to the subconscious parts of
him or herself that are in pain, in order to heal at the deepest level.
When subconscious pain is resolved, the deep childhood emotional void is
made whole. This results in the person's ability to respond effortlessly
to the circumstances that once triggered him or her, as emotional development
has been freed and enabled to progress healthfully.
According to one's level of self-awareness, age regression can last for
a few minutes, a few hours, or a few days. Indeed, some people live their
lives in a perpetually age regressed state. When these emotional backslides
are treated at the subconscious level, where they originate, emotional
parts of the mind that have remained frozen in time at a younger age can
be healed, chronologically updated, and integrated with the conscious mind.
As a result, one lives empowered, self-confident, and able to choose how
to respond to any given situation.
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