A year has gone by since I waited down the aisle for my blushing bride to be (actually since I'm writing this in September of 2000 it's been a year and 4 months but who's counting?). In that time we've discovered more about each other both who we are independently and who we are together. There have been some rocky times, some hard times but we've stuck them out and talked and loved each other through them.
There have also been joyous times and times of intense love. The most times have been the day to day where that other person is there in your life as part of the known that makes up each day.
Too often we take for granted those special people in our lives who we see each day. We look at them as we wake up in the morning and roll over and get out of bed or we greet them as we come home with a hello and head off to whatever it is we are off to do. But every so often it helps to stop and look at them through with the gaze that you had that first morning you woke up next to them.
Or when you couldn't wait to get home to them knowing they've been waiting to see you all day. I don't do this every day with the woman I love, the woman I bent down and asked to be my wife. But I do recognize that Tricia Lewis is a very special person to me. I do gaze at her sometimes in wonder.
There may be "discussions" there may be disagreements but there will always be us.
Trish and I are actually very different from each other. They say opposites attract and I guess for us that's true. Most of our opposites balance out each other. She's more spontaneous and I'm more laid back and a planner. During this second year of our marriage I think those differences have surfaced more as we define ourselves within our marriage and more and more of our true personas comes out.
Not that we weren't open and honest with each other before we married or that we put up false personas or faces, it's just that with the passage of time with one another more and more of who we are comes through and the rose colored glasses loose some of their tint.
Tricia is still that wonderful woman that I married, your true inner core that makes up your being rarely if ever truly changes, yet now there is more to her than I ever knew or suspected. And no I'm not talking about size, you pigs.
I've found out more about who this person called Tricia Lewis is. Some of the things I've discovered I've been less than enthusiastic about and some have just left me with my jaw hanging on the floor in wonder.
Tricia like all people is a complex mixture of emotions, attitudes and characteristics. Different aspects of her personality will come out at different times.
How she deals with stress, her dreams of the future, her fears of the future, her ideas on various subjects from casual sex to movies all come out and display various aspects of herself. I am continuing to learn and explore with her.
Buckle up and enjoy the ride!